While some self- helps books may tell you to ‘just think positive’ , the problem with that is that we cannot control the thoughts that arrive.
If you think your attention as a spotlight many people will leave that spotlight to move freely , wherever the wind blows. Your brain will occasionally take control of if there is any sign of danger or threat. But you can consciously take control of that spotlight and pay attention to specific aspects of our experience on purpose. Be intentional when giving attention to specific thoughts .
Many of us are out of the habit of asking ourselves what we want. Practising mindfulness can be really daunting when you first get started, because you ‘re not sure what you should be doing , if you are getting it right, or how you should feel while you’re doing it.
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WHY HAS NOBODY TOLD ME THIS BEFORE- JULIE SMITH